You know that character from Marvel comics? Hulk is the alter-ego of this mild scientist Paul Banner who involuntarily transforms into this green giant whenever he gets too angry and gets destructive. That morning I was pretty sure I was about to turn into the Hulk as anger seethed uncontrollably from me.
As I look back now, my reaction and behavior was definitely unbecoming. However, it shows that unchecked anger can do so much harm to a person and people around. It was an experience I never wanted to go through again, and through this episode I have learned a few things:
- As we have been taught at a young age not to throw tantrums and to be in control, it is so easy for us to fall into the habit of suppressing our anger. This is an unhealthy pattern and can cause our sanity and health problems. When we repress anger, our feelings can build up and eventually become explosive. Therefore it is critical for us to learn how to release our anger in a healthy way.
- Ephesians 4:26-27 says “Be angry, and yet do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and do not give the devil an opportunity.” It is an unavoidable fact that our rights can get violated and be wronged by people, and anger is a natural feeling and reaction under these circumstances. Unfortunately not all the times we are able to resolve the issues with the other party, and to right the wrongs. The only thing we can control is our reactions. We do have a choice as to how we let these things affect us. And we definitely should not permit or give satisfaction to the offender to cause us so angry that we get paralyzed by our feelings.
- We need to find a safe place to express, that morning I realized I needed to be able to come clean with the staff at church. I needed to have my feelings acknowledged, because the anger was affecting my performance in a negative way
- In order to be able to listen to sound advice, we must first be allowed to express. To get someone to listen to us, we must first learn to listen. My co-workers did just that, and it made a world of difference.
- Prayers can disarm a person. That morning I was prayed for and God answered. He ministered to me and calmed the storm in the heart.
- When I finally cooled down I knew I had to refocus my attention, not on how to “get even” but to remember what God has called me to do.
Anger can easily turn into bitterness and consumes us. I am thankful for this precious lesson and God let me see the Hulk inside me. At the end of the day, it is a comfort to know that everything is under His control.
“For God shall bring every work into judgement, including every secret thing, whether it be good, or whether it be evil.” Ecclesiastes12:14