Lesson # 8

 My favorite saying for 2011 is “No expectation then no disappointment.”
Before I go on any further I have to clarify the kind of expectation I am referring to have nothing to do with organizational goals and objectives.  It is important to have them in place to be effective and productive, the expectation I am referring to is the personal demands one placed on other people.

Let me illustrate by using my favorite subject— Jaden. 


This dog only has one thing on his mind and that is food.  Last night I had soup for supper, which is one of his many favorites, and as soon as I lifted up the lid of the pot he magically appeared by my side with the most pathetic looking eyes.  If he could speak, he probably will say ” it has been almost 78 mins since you last fed me..”

I am hungry....it has been 78 mins since you fed me...

 He sat beside me as I ate, and his eyes never left my spoon, he was expecting to find a morsel or two from me, but by the time I finished supper there was nothing for him to vacuum up from the floor.  You should see the look on his furry face.  He ended up lying on the mat, and staring at me for a good part of the evening, yes that is what we humans called “sulking”.  He was disappointed because his expectation was not met.  In case you are wondering I am not a mean owner, but Jaden had too many treats over the holidays, ( like homemade doggie cookies and turkey scraps ) and he can stand to lose some chub before our next visit to the vet.

sigh...life is so tough !

This is the kind of expectation I am talking about:  I want my family to pamper me,  to attend  all my whims… and from past experiences I know I am setting myself up for disappointment.  I have to confess that I can be a real diva sometimes and fortunately life has taught me some valuable lessons.  What I want I don’t usually get…and need. Don’t get me wrong, I am not implying that my family is inattentive, I am saying that sometimes my expectation can be unrealistic and exhausting and put unnecessary demands on others.   .

We do need a reality check once in a while, as in this day and age self-entitlement is so emphasized.  As followers of Christ, what we need is Christ-actualization.  The world does not revolve around us, it is never about us, it is all about Him. 

We can get so self involved that we forget what it is to love God and love others.  I have learned through some very hard lessons that true happiness comes from taking our eyes off ourselves and doing what pleases Him.


About mamaj

mom with two grown up girls, children pastor, avid knitter, coffee-lover, bear-collector. I love reading, hanging out with my girl friends and yes, I am owned by a golden lab, Jaden.

Posted on January 5, 2012, in 2011. Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. i think i have the perfect gift for Jaden. Cara’s mealtimes. They may just be best friends – she drops food, he eats it up. i win.

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