Lesson #7

John Lennon once said, “Love means having to say you’re sorry every fifteen minutes.”

Years ago I would have strongly disagree with Lennon , but now I whole heartedly agree with his observation.

We easily can take people for granted, they can be our family and our close friends.  The truth is we are not perfect and at times can hurt others unintentionally.  If the issues are not resolved, hurts can build up and turn into anger, grudges and bitterness.

I found the hardest thing is to apologize to my children, which clearly is a matter of pride.  Just the other day I accidentally closed the door on my child, and since it was not intentional, I believed that I was not in the wrong and therefore did not offer an apology. But in hind sight, apologizing is not a matter of who is being right or wrong, it is about acknowledging  the hurt and the violation of something which is precious to the other person.

I have written before  that when some one apologizes to me, it is not up to me to judge whether he or she is sincere or not, because I do not see and understand the hearts of man.  I can only be responsible for my actions and motivation.  My experience a few days ago reminded me that I need to build the habit of heartfelt apologies, because it will ease the anger of the offended, and build up relationships.

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About mamaj

mom with two grown up girls, children pastor, avid knitter, coffee-lover, bear-collector. I love reading, hanging out with my girl friends and yes, I am owned by a golden lab, Jaden.

Posted on January 4, 2012, in 2011. Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

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